CVA, I know what you are saying about Thanksgiving, my kids don't want to spend the holidays with the OM, and I told DD11 that she doesn't have to. Just call me and I will pick them up.
We have to stand strong on that, and no matter what, the W's should respect what the kids want, sounds like your will, in the past, I have had to fight for what they want, hopefully with the way my sitch has started to go, I won't have to, this time. I hope that you don't either. Take care.
