CVA - Figuring out What's Next

[Not Much Left]

Thanks Mandy
Puddle, no reply. She has had numerous opportunities to respond. I would bet she will call me this week while I am work as it is "safer" for her that way.

She asked me basically to babysit Wed night for her night out with her girlfriends. I am sure everyone will then know she filed and I will get the pitiful, "hi CVA, how are you doing" from her friends. Eff that, I'm fine, maybe u should ask her that.

In any event, went to dinner w/ W and 3 boys as D11 went with her best friend out. Everything is just as is at dinner and she even watched a TV show w/ me tonight, didn't ask me, just sort of sat down with the presumption I wanted to as well. I did want to see the show and since I don't have Tivo at the apt, I stayed.

Tomorrow is another day, I cant wait till Thanksgiving if she wants everyoÀne to go to dallas S9 (soon to be 10) will say no, wants to stay with Dad, well welcome to Divorceland. He'staying..

[Handful of Rain]

CVA, I know what you are saying about Thanksgiving, my kids don't want to spend the holidays with the OM, and I told DD11 that she doesn't have to. Just call me and I will pick them up.

We have to stand strong on that, and no matter what, the W's should respect what the kids want, sounds like your will, in the past, I have had to fight for what they want, hopefully with the way my sitch has started to go, I won't have to, this time. I hope that you don't either. Take care.

[Not Much Left]

Thanks Rain



C

[Handful of Rain]

CVA, My thread got locked up, so visit me at my new one, still the 2nd one in the sig. Take care.

[Puddle]

Hey CVA,

I would bet she will call me this week while I am work as it is "safer" for her that way.

That sounds like a pretty good prediction. Does she never email you? I'd think that would be easiest (for her). If she does call, I hope it goes well. What kind of legal timeline are you on?

She asked me basically to babysit Wed night for her night out with her girlfriends.

Pet peeve of mine: You're not the babysitter, you're the father.

I am sure everyone will then know she filed and I will get the pitiful, "hi CVA, how are you doing" from her friends. Eff that, I'm fine, maybe u should ask her that.

This was a tough one for me: feeling pitied. Sounds like you've got your PMA on, though, and of course, who cares what they think?

Everything is just as is at dinner and she even watched a TV show w/ me tonight, didn't ask me, just sort of sat down with the presumption I wanted to as well. I did want to see the show and since I don't have Tivo at the apt, I stayed.

Interesting. Was this a new thing for her? Would it have been a new thing for you to leave? I'm thinking about the old space issue, and her never really having gotten much of that from you. Sounds like she initiated, though.

if she wants everyoÀne to go to dallas S9 (soon to be 10) will say no, wants to stay with Dad, well welcome to Divorceland. He'staying..

Oh boy. This stuff is so loaded. I hope everything goes well. I agree with you: the kids should definitely have a say in what they're doing. I have to admit, though, that I'm afraid when we tell the kids and I'm leaving to do something, they'll want me to stay. Not sure what I plan to do about that, if it arises.

Take care, CVA.

[Not Much Left]

Yeah, thanks Puddle. I don't really see ant pt in staying around to watch tv, she won't invite me so why stay? I won't anymore.

C

[Puddle]

Hey CVA,

Space sounds good. Hope you're doing well today.

Take care.

[Heimlich]

Hey, CVA, busy couple of days for you.

FWIW on the kids/Thanksgiving, sorry, they don't get to choose what they do, you and your W do. Plus, having them "pick parents" sounds pretty loaded to me and could cause bitterness down the road. Should be all or none, IMO. They spend the day with you or with your W. Just my 2 pennies.

Oh, Top 5 (in no particular order):
Meg Ryan, Jessica Alba, the chick from Knocked Up, Natalie Portman, Shakira (anyone that can move their hips like that . . .)

BD

[Not Much Left]

Yep agree on the kids, just know three boys will want to be with me for sure and will have to tell them "its ok guys, go have fun in Dallas" read...Poor CVA alone on Thanksgiving. I will make the most of it. Xmas will be a lot tougher.

Used to be a big Meg Ryan fan, not so much anymore after she ditched her Hubby for Gladiator man. Natalie Portman, definitely...Scarlett Johansson is who I could not think of earlier, WOW! Charlize Theron also comes to mind, blah, blah, blah.

But seriously, cant beat Halle Berry no matter how old / young she is...

[L21959]

Hi CVA --

Frequent lurker, infrequent poster ;), but a couple things caught my eye...

Originally Posted By: CVA
She asked me basically to babysit Wed night for her night out with her girlfriends.


Pet peeve of mine: You're not the babysitter, you're the father.

Puddle -- me, too. And I'm curious to know who (CVA, is it you or W) is categorizing it in this way...

And I'm with Heim on this:

FWIW on the kids/Thanksgiving, sorry, they don't get to choose what they do, you and your W do. Plus, having them "pick parents" sounds pretty loaded to me and could cause bitterness down the road. Should be all or none, IMO. They spend the day with you or with your W. Just my 2 pennies.

CVA, your earlier comments may have just been venting here; I hope so.

Hang in there with giving W lots of space! Hope you're having a good day...

L2