first, I like 'lwb's comment about turning to mush. Very insightful.
Originally Posted By: mcc_xfer
W called 3 times tonight from Hunter (S8 and I went out to Home Depot and stopped for Chinese - boys night out!) and she left some messages. Called her back just after her last call and she said she was worried because she didn't know where my son was...
What an oddball. Maybe she was seriously concerned about where he was but why would she not simply assume he was with me, and why not try my cell phone? Where dis she think he could be? He's 8, I'm his father, she knew we had plans while the "ladies" were out... Just don't get it.
Did she think I went out without him? duh.
Could be her motherly instincts kicked in when she couldn't reach her child or maybe she just didn't want me to think she was concerned about the boy AND me...
Too much thought put into that already, just very odd.
How about: She's not used to him being 'out' with his dad, and her not being 'in charge' of it.? IN the past, she would get a total 'blow by blow' of your evening. However, now that she has 'left' she is only entitled to "S8 and I are going out'.
See how much of a change that is?
Separation / divorce is not quite what she thought it would be.
So, you need to keep letting her 'feel' what divorce 'feels like'.
Act 'as if'. Let her feel it. One of two things will happen:
1) She will decide that it feels bad, and she wants to work on the marriage.
2) She will decide it feels bad, and that she wants to get 'control'.
Either way, she is facing the consequences of her choices.
