CVA - Figuring out What's Next

[Not Much Left]

LOL! Good one Puddle. Bit of a PMA boost today looking at my next house, but figuring out W has sign off in Texas doesnt bode well for me getting anything anytime soon. You women have ALL the power, literally!

Now, if one of my top 5 would give me incentive to speed up a D, then I could get a place! Just kidding. Just trying to have some fun again.

Meeting w/ attorney on Tuesday. That should be fun

Taking the boys to a HS football game tonight. Staying out of the house for a bit longer....weird, I am afraid to go home cuz our housekeeper wants to "talk to us!" I have no desire to talk about anything w/ her as I may be letting her go....first time I have avoided something like this in my life.

C

[Gone Dancin']

Hate to remind you, but GD is *28*. That's like you being attracted to a 36-year-old. He'd even be too young for me!

What?! And I thought that my combination of youth and maturity would be an attractive attribute to older women (not to mention my sexy, smooth, waxed chest and abs)!

GD

[Puddle]

Hey CVA,

Bit of a PMA boost today looking at my next house, but figuring out W has sign off in Texas doesnt bode well for me getting anything anytime soon.

Why does she have to sign off on you buying a house? It's not about selling your house-in-common, is it?

You women have ALL the power, literally!

That's a load of crap. How do you figure? From where I stand, your W is in a similar position to me (maybe even worse, if she's never had a career): you make all the money, you're going to continue to make money, and she's going to depend on you to keep paying.

Now, you may not feel like she has a right to continue her blond shopping lifestyle, but I'm pretty sure she's going to have *less* money after the D than she has now (as will you). Neither of you will be as well off as you were financially.

Listen, CVA: for me, it's the sheer unfairness of the fact that this was not my choice, but I'm still going to pay for it, that really gets me. I think you may be in the same boat. If I were the breadwinner and H walked, I'd have a hard time swallowing the fact that he could continue to not work and I'd still have to pay, especially if he had the kids.

By the same token, if *I'd* been the one to walk, I'd feel pretty guilty about H having to keep paying me, and---and I think this may be a bit of what your W is dealing with---I'd be afraid his resentment would creep into a D settlement.

I don't know your W, CVA, but my bet is she's scared sh*tless. What do you think?

Now, if one of my top 5 would give me incentive to speed up a D, then I could get a place! Just kidding. Just trying to have some fun again.

Ever considered moving to CA?

Meeting w/ attorney on Tuesday. That should be fun

Or not. But good luck with that. I know your business acumen will serve you well there.

Taking the boys to a HS football game tonight.

Sounds great! Have fun.

I am afraid to go home cuz our housekeeper wants to "talk to us!" I have no desire to talk about anything w/ her as I may be letting her go

Oh god, the housekeeper wants to talk about your D? Is that what you're thinking? Lovely.

....first time I have avoided something like this in my life.

Maybe she wants to tell you she's quitting.

Take care.

[Puddle]

What?! And I thought that my combination of youth and maturity would be an attractive attribute to older women...

Man, I was with you right up until that last part. Ouch!

I don't think I could ever date even the most mature, most ripped twentysomething---I'd never get over being thought of as "the older woman"!

But that's my issue to get over. They say 40 is the new 30, and that's what I'm hanging onto, baby.

[Gone Dancin']

Man, I was with you right up until that last part. Ouch!

I knew that was gonna get me in trouble, but I just meant older in relation to myself -- maybe some of that insecurity coming out, P? lol

I don't think I could ever date even the most mature, most ripped twentysomething---I'd never get over being thought of as "the older woman"!

But that's my issue to get over.

I guess so! If you were happy and he was happy, then who cares what society or other people think? Would you sacrifice your own happiness for those people's own inability for acceptance?

I know that the likelihood of such relationship being strong isn't all that great, but speaking hypothetically, would the reaction of others really deter you from taking that R any further (or starting it in the first place)?

GD

[Not Much Left]

P!!!
I hate when you are right!

Lately I have been considering CA heavily

I just knew this "list" and age thing would get some response!

You are only as old as u feel P!

C

[Puddle]

Hey CVA!

P!!!
I hate when you are right!

What, the housekeeper quit?

Lately I have been considering CA heavily

Come on out!

You are only as old as u feel P!

Then I'm eternally 25.

Take care.

[Not Much Left]

P, another LOL

I hope she quit!!! As usual, W says zippo to me. I just stayed away from the house till it was time to go to dinner before the football game, where I am now.

I am getting this 180 thing, just too late.

Hugs
C

[Puddle]

As usual, W says zippo to me.

Has she responded yet to your email? Man alive, sometime the two of you are going to have to sit down and talk.

I am getting this 180 thing, just too late.

It's never too late, at least for *you*, and that's the most important thing. Think what an unstoppable force you're going to be in your next R!

Have fun tonight.

[alk24]

I agree, never too late. I have the anxiety thing too, and I can't really put my finger on it. That's why God made xanax! Anyway, C I hope you are having a good day today and enjoying your kids. ((CVA))