It all seems too obvious to me and also to all the other folks on these boards that are trying to keep the marriages and families intact. It just seems that the WAS's in general don't want to put the effort in to maintaining a relationship. The want the instant gratification and are so self righteous about getting happiness at the expense of others.
As far as counseling... We have been going to joint counseling. Although she is nice and all, she has been focusing on past issues (childhood), that while relevant to the situation, we haven't been identifying things to fix us going forward. I want to change the counselor, but now I'm thinking it is a little late. We have a session scheduled next week, but now W is not interested in attending. Her attitude now is "what's the point, I've decided"
I like to think that I'm doing a good job at GAL, but this whole situation gets me so down so often. I just keep going back to why? How did things just change so drastically five months ago? Things were good, not great, but enjoyable and pleasant. Maybe I was just closing my eyes to some of the issues. Just don't know how someone can just want to through this all away just because it wasn't perfect. How can they not realize that it will never be perfect?
