Apparently OW was drunk again when she emailed me. H thinks she put the receipt in his truck Thursday night. Apparently she has her own key. I can not believe he gave her a key to his work truck! OMG! WTF! He keeps his laptop in there 50% of the time, a digital camera, etc. And worst of all, the garage door opener. If we're not home, but his truck is here, she could get into our house if she wanted! I told him that was not acceptable and he needed to do something about it. I can't believe he did that. He doesn't even like the fact that my mother has a key to our house. My mother is the most trustworthy person in the world -- but he gave OW a key to his truck, and access to our house!? I can not tell you how P.O. I am about this! (I slept on the sofa last night!)
OW denies stopping by and sneaking into his truck but there is no other way for her to know exactly where to tell me to look. PLUS, there was an empty pack of cigarettes next to the receipt. She put those things in there herself.
H was really put off by her last night. Said she was making threats. I asked what kind of threats. Threats like telling me things -- that she would do exactly what she did. He told me he doesn't like being threatened. He also told her that. I told him there certainly isn't much that she could tell me that I didn't already know. He said he doesn't think he could live with her (gee, 3 months ago he was convinced that they would be ok together).
I told him how p.o'd I was that he lied to me again. That I had asked for one important boundary -- that he not sleep with me if he wanted to sleep with her -- and that he broke that. I asked why he did it and he said, "I dunno, I guess I was trying to appease her." She's been really nasty lately and until his court case is cleared up, well, I guess he thinks he has to suck up to her a bit.
He was very acquiescing to everything I said. Kept saying, I understand or OK. But I didn't get the feeling that he is going to act on anything I said. He said again last night he would move out if I wanted him to. But financially he doesn't think it's a good idea.
He denies that she would do anything violent but I don't trust the woman. She has access to my house!! We have a secret way to get in if anyone forgets a key, I took care of that this morning.
I'll see what happens this weekend. I am not done talking to him about this! I know our sitch is complicated and I'm bending over backwards as much as I can, but my flexibility is limited...
Wish my D luck, she is trying out for all-state band today! I doubt she is going to make it (but I won't tell her that). She's good but you have to be the cream of the crop to compete for a few seats in a band with hundreds of other kids! But it's good that's she's going for it.
