Oh yeah, Sara!! What a great analogy!! There are no perfect relationships ... if you can't fix what went wrong in the first marriage, then you're probably screwed in future relationships, too. They think the problem is the person they married, but most of the time it's how they are interacting with that person.
HopeFF, have you asked your wife why she did a 180 on the R? You know now that there may be someone else in the picture, but wonder what she would say if you asked her. Are either of you in IC? I'm sure a good IC would point out that there are no perfect relationships. She's going to find out the hard way...
Sounds like you're doing a good job at GAL though.
