dmw, I understand how you feel. Obviously you are extremely frustrated given the way OM has behaved and how your XW does not "see" that. Unfortunately you have no control over any of that. The more you attempt to make her see the further you will probably push her away. People will not see what they don't want to see. The only thing you can do is be friendly, supportive, and continue to validate her feelings. Yes that can be unnatural at times and you may feel the complete opposite. But you have to let her make the mistakes and see things on her own. Hopefully eventually she'll realize what a scumbag OM is. And at the same time she sees that you've been there the whole time and how much better you are. If not, well, you know you are worthwhile and you deserve somebody that appreciates you. It would be her loss.
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
