Thanks LWB, I'm not going to far. The training is just far enough away to make the morning commute hell, so I'll stay at a hotel in that area.
I wonder about the crying also. Is it us and the situation? Is it the OG? I guess maybe I could take either as a good sign, right? Not going too crazy about it. I think I'm gonna stay pretty dark when I'm away. I was planning on calling around bedtime just to say goodnight to the kids.
Do not worry about the crying. You asked and then gave her space. Our W have alot on their minds. It's too bad they can't see that we are here to share their burden if they would open up and let us. I am waiting on the sideline watching W at this time. I know she can not handle to much more and will break soon. the key as I see it is to be there when it happens to catch her when she falls.
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
The crying could be about anything. Who knows these days? Hard to speculate, but crying usually equals sadness or guilt (sometimes anger for me), so at least it appears she is trying to work through all the muck in her head.
So I'm on my own tonight and tomorrow night. Staying at a hotel on business. I'm remembering what I didn't like about the single life. Went down to the hotel restaurant for dinner. It was me and a 90 yr old couple in the dining room. Then I walked around the town a bit and went into a bar for a cocktail. I like to think I'm okay with life after D, but I'm remembering all the lonely nights. Wait a minute...!!! I've had five months of lonely nights already. Guess it can't be much worse.
Got a text message from W this morning letting me know that the initial consultation with the mediator has been setup. Ugh. Is this the beginning of the end?
Friday night. Last night while I was away on business, I called home at about 8:30 to say goodnight to the kids. Talked to the W afterwards for a bit. She mentioned that she was planning on having dinner at the ILs since they were going to be watching them due to school being out and she was wondering when I was going to be getting back. At the time, it sounded like she was inviting me if I was going to be back in time.
So today, I get done early with what I was doing and head to the ILs so I can see the kids. I'm there for awhile and then send W a text letting her know that I'm there. She seems surprised by this, so I reply that I thought she had asked me to come, but I don't need to be there if it is awkward. I just wanted to see the kids. She replies back that she had just said that it was her and the kids going. Now I'm feeling really awkward...
On a side note, when I got home and checked the mail, there was a letter from an attorney stating that we had a meeting scheduled for Monday afternoon for the initial mediation.
Left the ILs house and met up with some friends at a local restaurant. Stayed there until about 10 PM and had a good time. W is asleep when I get home. Trying to decide if I should just go to bed or go back out.
Thanks LWB, Too tired to go back out. Actually I should have cause now I'm just wandering around this dark house trying to make sense of things.
I need a sanity check here....
Before I say anything, just hit me with a 2x4 cause I snooped.
If anyone is familiar with my sitch, you know that there is already a confirmed PA with OG that has supposedly ended. My W is full bore with divorce at this point and I am left wondering why. Why has she gone from wanting to work things out to absolutely certain D is the right answer. So I've been looking for answers to my question and have checked her cell phone. Checked her phone and there are some text messages to some person that I am not familiar with. These are from two days ago.
Here's the dialog: H: "Good time with the gals?" W went out with friends the night before. W: "Yes it was how was your evening" H: "Boring I can think of better things" If that isn't a sexual inuendo, I don't know what is... W: "You in the office yet" H: "Si"
There are more from today, but his responses to her texts are deleted. Hmmmm. Wonder why they would need to get deleted.
I'm dumbfounded. W had found her soulmate and lost all hope for us being able to rebuild. Unable to work on us because of this connection with OG. Now the OG is out of the picture and there is potentially ANOTHER OG?????
Truth be told there are endless OG's. She's in the market looking for a new husband. It always reminds me of when I was a child and the boy scout troop had a Christmas grab bag. All the toys in there were cheap. But they were wrapped real pretty. I got to pick one cuz my brother was a boy scout. Anyway, everytime I picked a present, I was really happy with it until I unwrapped it, and realized it was a cheap toy. Then I wanted to pick from the grab bag again. I always thought if I could just pick again, I'd get a better gift. That's the way a lot of people are with spouses. They think they picked wrong, and if they pick again they will do SO much better this time.
That's why so many 2nd marriages fail. Because the people in them don't realize there are no perfect people or perfect relationships. That you have to create the relationship, and it's as good as you make it.
