Everyone needs their space, certainly. But once connection is made, or re-established, you have to work really hard on not getting 'clingy' and taking connection too far. I think that is where HD people (because they've been in starvation mode) tend to shoot themselves in the foot... and then the LD person feels 'overwhelmed' or 'engulfed,' and boom, you're off to the races.
Can't agree more with this. This is probably were I made more mistakes and I really have to work at it to not get too clingy and to give Miss IC her space. It's so easy to fall into that trap when one has been "starving" for so long, and yea, I can see where the LD person can ger that overwhelmed feeling and back away even more.
Being LD sucks. I can't think of anything that SHOULD be easier than to have and enjoy sex. But God, when you have to actually make yourself get there... that is just so... fcked up.
Being HD can sometimes be...as you said...fcked up. It's hard for us to understand how something that SHOULD be so easy to have and enjoy isn't always the case for the LD person.
So if you feel the pull of 'dull and boring,' and your sex drive is going with it, I'd say you need to find your passion. That is what I was kind of telling IC and GGB... passion feeds happiness. And when you feel happy, you feel rested, and you want to be in the company of others. Sex is enjoyable.
Ooooohh this is so key...and yet this is truly more difficult than it sounds. It was so hard for me to separate how I can make myself happy without relying on others. "How can I be happy doing something, when my marriage sucks?" It took everything down with it. It wasn't until I was able to change my thinking and basically will myself to being happy for myself regardless of my relationship. Once I was able to establish this, it began filtering over into our marriage and things began to change.
Try it, sweety. And if you seriously think about it for even five minutes, you'd realize just how flippin' hard it actually is... to know what your passion is... and go DO it.
So... what is your passion?
Good luck RJ, you don't know how many hours of sleep I lost pondering Corri's question a few month back You'll get there, I know you will
You'll get there, I know you will 
