our un-relationship

[Dom R]

Dom, good points on the discussion. I hadn't thought of it that way. It's a problem I have in general...I think I'm being clear, when I'm not.

Yeah.. me too. sigh.

like the last time my wife, children and I were on a mini-vacation, the last night, I gave her a really nice massage.. teased her a bit... and said "but you're not going to get any tonight!"

I think she was interested and teased back a bit, so may have been disappointed that I didnt respond to her.
May have even resented me for it.
What I SHOULD have done, was completed my statement, with WHY she wasnt getting any that night: Because I didnt want her to feel regret about being with me afterwards, like she did the previous time.

Sigh.
Wish I had more fully communicated then.
[also wished I had "given in", too oh well...]