Dom, good points on the discussion. I hadn't thought of it that way. It's a problem I have in general...I think I'm being clear, when I'm not.
Yeah.. me too. sigh.
like the last time my wife, children and I were on a mini-vacation, the last night, I gave her a really nice massage.. teased her a bit... and said "but you're not going to get any tonight!"
I think she was interested and teased back a bit, so may have been disappointed that I didnt respond to her. May have even resented me for it. What I SHOULD have done, was completed my statement, with WHY she wasnt getting any that night: Because I didnt want her to feel regret about being with me afterwards, like she did the previous time.
Sigh. Wish I had more fully communicated then. [also wished I had "given in", too oh well...]
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
There is the argument that sex helps create more feelings of intimacy. I suspect it helped move things along with us a few months ago.
Of course, I'm stuck with the position now...that I made such a big stink about it...I really need to stick with my guns. (Despite what my hormones may want. ;))
Oh. And it's not like I'm saying I plan on being a tease. Just that, I should start dressing up my sleepwear again like I've started dressing up during the day again. I let all of that slide during the weight gain/weight drop...really, just more of returning to my own self again.
oh well...]