Still trying - Not very well

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I like the idea of choice. It puts us in control, and also makes us responsible. We can only control and be responsible for ourselves though.

Maybe our spouses have made the choice to work on it, but at a deep level. On the surface,they say they are waiting to Feel in love, but the fact that they are here, going to retrouvaille, and MC, talking in any fashion, means they have chosen to work on it. Then, given time, and the fact that they have chosen to put us in their heads (see Sara's post about retrouvaille ) they will FEEL in love with us because they have, actually, chosen to love us.

Thanks. Interesting stuff.