Uh...wow...totally missed the point, didn't he? I am not opposed to having sex with my ex-husband, just with someone who is also involved with someone else.
If you havent already... please make sure to tell him explicitly, again, that is what is going on.
Any time he apologizes to you, for something that isnt the real reason for friction between you, I think it's a good idea to explain to him what is really going on. I think that's just a good marriage principle overall, not just in this large issue.
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Wonder what he would do if I started wearing slightly nicer stuff to bed at night...?
Definately do it!!!!
Show him "what he's missing"
depending on how well he responds to direct talk... he may ask you, "What are you doing?? i thought you didnt want sex??"
To which you then have a perfect opportunity to say, "I DO want sex. It's just that I want sex with someone who is [....]"
Last edited by Dom R; 11/09/0706:06 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
