Thanks. Coming here has really helped me. Yes, the M is cetainly in danger. I sometimes think that each time she begins to connect to me a little she catches herself and backs off. I'm sure there is a term for that. She is stubborn (she would admit that) and may feel that since we would try 3 months apart she needs to take that full time and not rush. Which I guess would be a positive. While I want our M and family to build a new and better life I don't want her to rush back and then not be sure. That would not do any of us any good.
We have D7, S5, and S3 and they all still beleive that when our house sells we will all move to where my new job is.
I really don't know what to make of her suggesting and following through with staying with the kids in me when they visit. That is so out of character for what our R has been since August. (I took the new job 2 months ago. I had asked her earlier, before DB, to stay with them during a visit. In fairness I wouild say I pleaded, and she refused. This time it was her idea. Certainly a lesson learned.
I am having a hard time since then keeping my detachment. I have not contacted her much, but the desire to is driving me nuts!
