I personally dont see how "leaving her pregnant" is somehow better than "leaving his 4 year old, 6 year old, 7 year old..."

If he really has some kind of moral basis to make decisions on, then he should recognize that he cant "fix" the messed up situation he made with OW (if she really IS pregnant), but he can at least fix his marriage and family.

Best thing he could do for OW and that child (if it exists, and is really his), would be to consider it as "given up for adoption", to OW.

He cant justify being with her "for the child".
I cant think of any child that is going to be happy knowing the truth, of
"yes, I came to be with your mother all through your life! ... and to do that, I abandoned your 4 sisters and 3 brothers."

Not only does it show what a schmuck of a guy he is... it also puts incredible guilt on that child, that it is their fault that those other children are suffering.

Best if he just cuts things off completely, and lets them have a "fresh" start.


My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle