Cat, The other thing that I know that my H notices is when I ask other questions to try to get at the real thing I want to know...if that makes any sense. He always knows when I'm fishing for something. But you are right... it is very damaging. And while it is no excuse for my H's behavior, I found that it was my beahving this way that drove H back to OW on numerous occasions when he was feeling like he could do nothing right in my eyes.
Aud, You really don't have a choice but to let him go and trust him. We all need to try to realize that it's not our jobs to watch over them... they need to do that themselves. We are not their mothers. We are their partners. How long is your H going for? Mine is going from Monday to Thursday. I'm kind of looking forward to the alone time.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
