Showing desire, in a real way...

[RedHeadWife]

RJ, listen girl, I so understand what you are talking about. Been there, done that. Unfortunately, my H ended up dropping the D bomb & had numerous A's before I woke up. Not saying this will happen to you, I'm just saying this is what finally woke me up.

During the whole D sitch & thereafter before he left for deployment I was WAY HD & loved it. I then noticed after awhile, maybe b/c the drama had died down or something, I wasn't 'feeling it' all the time anymore.

Now, I'm extra paranoid that my drive will go back down after he's been back for awhile. I quit taking my AD, but have now started taking it again just in a lower dose. I had quit taking it b/c I was so scared it was going to affect my drive & my ability to O. I noticed when I was over there visiting, w/ us having S numerous times a day, it took probably about 6 days of that before I finally had an O. Not sure if this was b/c of the AD or if it was just a woman thing of having to get back into it after being apart for so long, etc.

Anyway, moral of my story I guess is that for those of us who aren't just naturally HD, we do have to work at it and keep it at the forefront of our minds that our H do need S on a regular basis and, whether we truly are always wanting that or not, we kind of have to get our minds & bodies where they need to be so that we can accomodate their needs and hopefully in the process get to the point where we want it too. I have to keep reminding myself that, unlike I guess I was brought up to believe, men don't always just want sex for sex, their emotions and feeling loved by us come into play too.