SD, Would he quit his job as he says? Has he done that in the past? Maybe it's frustration talk. How bad is his job situation? Is it affecting his health?
I know what it's like to have a spouse who isn't happy with their work life. My W hasn't had a job she's enjoyed as long as we've been married.
Myself and her sister used to look at job ads for her, and send out resumes for her because we got tired of her complaining and not doing anything about it. She also wasn't good at self-intitiative, and felt powereless to do anything about it. We don't do that anymore, and let her own the problem, but am willing to help if she asks for it.
Is he job hunting? Does he need help with the job hunting process? Can you two partner on this?
Is he in a complaining mode, but not ready to make a commitment to job hunt? If that's the case, you need to not take on his problem of job dissatisfaction, but wait until he's ready to work at it.
Is he not giving you any reassurance that he understands his responsibility to contribute to the finances?
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
