I think that the hardest part of all this is that we used to be each others best friend up until a month ago. Even after she moved out she still considered me her best friend.
Give it some time - It sounds like she is hanging onto you at a friend, which is a positive thing. There isn't much you can do other than roll with it and follow her lead. Sometimes it's more important to be the person they need you to be, than to be the person you want to be - You don't know if in a month or two when she has a bad time who she is going to turn to. If you can be the person she needs, then she might come to you rather than go to someone else. I seem to be the only person that my W tells her real feelings to anymore - I know that her friends and stuff don't get to hear all the details about her life. I'm sure there are things that she leaves out for me, but she'll tell me about how she feels about moving, how she feels about herself and stuff like that.
Give her some time to figure herself out, then she may come to you - She pretty much has no clue what she wants, what she feels or what she is thinking about. Her feelings and desires will change from one day to the next, so be prepared for a lot of ups and downs.
