Just getting started peicing it back together 2

[jersting]

sfa, I have been trying to find that "suitable median" for 13 years and I have not found it yet. When I was not being controlling over our finances she was going behind my back and getting credit cards I did not even know about and charging them to the limit. I figured the math once and I had paid off over 80 grand in credit card debt within 12 years we were married. I have no hard feelings over this but it is time for it to stop. Maybe with me it can not stop so she is going to have to stop some how on her own and figure out if it is me causing this for her or if she is doing it to herself.