Rob makes some very good points but please don't be so quick to apply the dreaded *MLC* label.
I think about quitting my job all the time. A spot on the beach on some island is appealing. But I don't. But I do keep my options open.
SD - after several years doing the same job - well that is reason enough to consider a change. Maybe he is in a rut. Maybe he needs a growth spurt.
You and H are different. You need a plan and definite decisions - he needs things to be open ended and spontaneous. You have different temperments (yes, I have been reading).
That is not bad b/c that difference is what attracted you to each other in the first place.
So, why not try to help him here? There are several good books on career changes and finding your *true* career path. Some have question type formats - answer the questions and look up possible choices based on your answers.
You can be of great help with the organization of this "quest". Helping identify the careers, training needed, resume writing, etc. I think your temperment is for organization, so it would work for you.
But tell him that while you support this "quest" of his, you still need to eat. Quit his job? Sure, but after he has another one lined up.
If he does not want a job, well that is different. Then, all I know to do is to remind him of his responsibility and that you cannot see yourself living in a car somewhere. Set the boundary - then it becomes his choice.
