There is absolutely nothing wrong with remembering what the ring means, just don't dwell on it beating yourself up because of the situation you're in.
Jar is right. It doesn't sound like you're ready to go without the ring. However, if you feel that its symbolism is a barrier to you moving forward, then consider carrying it in your pocket or just go cold-turkey.
As for Denver, I hope that you really will look for someone else to go and, if you don't find someone, it's no big deal. Don't ask her again though - she knows you want her to go. Find someone to take her place or go alone. Either way this will help with your healing.
I may try keeping it in my pocket for a while. To me the ring meant something, but to her the ring was just a ring..that is what she told me. She told me to start looking for someone to go to Denver in case she cant get the time off. I have started asking but so far no luck but I will keep looking.
Okay so the other day when we talked or when she came clean, I told her that I would make a deal with her if she went to denver...but I dont have a deal and dont know why I said that. She has sent me two text messages asking what the deal is..I am trying to go dark so I have not responded. Should I keep doing this?? I think I was going to ask her that if she went I would not fight her on the divorce. I want everyone to know what she did and that it was her fault and not that we just have differences. I would just let it go if she went to Denver with me but I dont want to make her mad and I want a relationship with her after the D, if that is possible...
