Houndfan, I hate to sound negative to you, but I just want you to understand what you are going to be dealing with here. My friend, you are just now getting started. She is going to blame you for EVERYTHING that happens to her. You must understand that in her mind everything that is bad for her is your fault. Is that true? No, it certainly is not, but you have to understand that in the mind of the MLCer, someone has to be blamed for her unhappiness, guess what, its you! Nothing you do or say is going to change that. The only thing you can do is let her go and let her discover that she is the one with the problem. Will she ever realize this? Eventually she will. Will she come back afterwards? That remians to be seen, but understand that many do not, I cannot explain why, I think its a pride thing, and that is true in most situations when people are wrong, most won't admit it regardless of what suffering they have to go through. My advice to you is to detach from her, unless you do, you will be sucked into this drama and it will only get worse. Prepare yourself for her trying to make you stay around and wait for her, she will make vauge comments about things working out for you guys in the future or that things won't succeed with the OM. This is all a ploy to keep you having hope, as you are her safety net. Its tough man, just read some of these postings here and you will see.
