H has left have I Done the right thing

[Evie]

I was feeling better, lulled into a sense of false security!!Ok until I have to deal with the next hurdle.

We managed to sort out access, Cat advised me not to rely on him too much because I would be dissapointed if he let me down. I did wanted a couple of days where H didn't have to come round and I could just be on my own. That will definately be a MOnday and maybe a Wednesday but apart from that he will be involved most days.

Had a bit of a wobble yesterday. H called me at work to say that a couple of colleagues knew we had split up, it will be only a matter of time before it gets to my dept. Our receptionist is the worst gossip ever. I feel like sending an email to them all to tell them and put a stop to the gossip before it starts but i'm not going to.

Also H told me that his female friend - the one I thought he was maybe emotionally involved with - had left her husband....I hope you can imagine my panic!! It turns out he has been deceiptful and physically abusive she had been living with her sons in one room with sofa pushed up against the door, she had to get out.

The advice everywhere i read is that boundaries need to set early in a S. We hadn't done that, we were just dealing with problems as they arose, but the news that she had left her H sent me into complete turmoil and I was making up things in my Head!!!!

Anyway, I had to say something to H which I wasn't ready to say at this point. I told him I would find it really difficult to cope with right now if he was seeing ow or anyone else. H said he wasn't seeing ow or anyone else and the last thing he wanted was a R?
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