More complicated than I imagined...

[Michael Mc C]

Well, things have been pretty quiet here. Ever since the anniversary it seems we've reached a plateau and are gliding along. Nothing great, nothing horrible (some communication issues but I think I've become grounded enough to identify when to engage her in conversation and when to back off until she cools down).

No R talk in a while now. Overall, living here has become much more pleasant and we're getting along very well - just not quite "married".

I actually threatened to spank her tonight because she was mocking me (jokingly). She stood her ground so I picked her up, threw her over my shoulder and gave her a couple of whacks.

She laughed about it like she used to when we played this way in the past but I let the episode end fairly quickly - don't want to overdo it. I figured that prolonging it, even by a few extra seconds, could make her feel suddenly uncomfortable, so only a taste.

I'm treating this as an experiment - with no anticipated result. She has just been reminded of how we used to play and that yes, believe it or not, we really did have fun.

If she enjoyed it, she knows how to get that reaction out of me again, which buttons to push. If she didn't enjoy it, or is not ready to accept it, she'll be careful not to "pick" on me (which would be sad, of course, but it's all in the name of science...)



This falls in line with one of the DB techniques I guess. Try something, pay attention to how well it works and modify if necessary.