Here we go 'round in circles...

[SDFoundGirl]

It's been a week...and I'm calmer, but still a little frustrated.

Apparently, H wants to quit his job with no guarantee of any income and no plans except to "figure out what he wants" indefinitely. Which would be fine except then we're $1000K short of being able to pay our bills every month BEFORE factoring in groceries. And his grand plan is to live off of the HELOC.

Seriously, if that's what he pushes to do, I'm going to push for a D/legal separation to protect myself financially. I support him following whatever path he wants, but it's not okay to put me in the position where I might be bankrupt. Not going there, and it's okay to have that as a boundary.

I guess I'm just sort of tired. I'm tired of being the bad guy because I expect him to be responsible. Before we moved here, there was a point where things were so bad at my job and for me emotionally/mentally that I was truly having a breakdown. I *needed* to quit and get myself healthy, but I didn't do that because it would have put us in financially jeopardy. What I did was brainstorm a solution with H so I could see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I guess I'm sort of aggravated because it's not like this job has suddenly become a burden. Nothing has changed in the 2 1/2 years he's been there, so why, suddenly, does he just need to quit with no plan? Without even having a conversation with me to figure out a strategy for him to get out without causing us serious harm?

Anyway, I'm still puzzling through all of this. Not much to say except that. Thanks to everyone who's checked in on me.

SD