Well, I'll really be thinking of you. This is all so tough on the kids. My D should be final sooner than later, but STBX still wants to be able to come over Christmas morning and spend that time w/ the kids as a family. That also really stinks, IMO!
Best of luck to you! It won't be easy, but I'm glad you're talking w/ your C and are going into this with your eyes wide open!!