Are you a social 7 or a homebody 7? I forget the exact name of the latter, but close enough. I could see where you would have a tough time being alone frequently if you are the former, esp. after a huge emotional trauma like the D. I am on the other side so I need the alone time to decompress/focus, but still enjoy interaction
I would say that I'm neither or both. My Type-7ishness varies with context. I might "explore" something in a book or "plan" for fun on my own and then I might find somebody to babble to about my new discovery or plans and possibly recruit a playmate with my enthusiasm or I might reverse the order and go find a playmate and then accompany them out into the world to explore and have fun together.
My need to touch base socially is more feminine than Type 7. It's like I just periodically have the urge to check on "my people" and make sure they're okay. I think men do this sort of thing too but they're more likely to do it by "reinforcing the fortress" or "walking the fence"rather than checking on the emotional/physical status of the inhabitants. Because I got accustomed to GP phoning me regularly, when he skipped a day I had to check on him because he didn't appear at my location when I expected him as he was circling.
Does anybody remember that marriage contract that I threw at Cobra? How can I find it in the archive? The reason I am asking is it is slowly dawning on me that GP keeps throwing out hypothetical plans for some sort of partnership/relationship and I was trying to remember what I was willing to offer back in the "bad old days." I think Uncle Lou would be very proud of me at the moment because I am actually trying to be sensible. I have decided that I shall follow the philosophy of Zola and strive to be a Pragmatic Romantic/Sensualist. Zola would say that romance/desire are tenuous luxuries that can only be maintained if practical realities are first attended to in a manner that renders them as able to be ignored.
Anyways, here is the "contract" or "proposition" I am considering in some sort of hypothetical manner. GP is 52, retired (although still works at secondary professions on free-lance basis), has 12 year old son. He has a decent pension, nice home but not a lot of extra cash to throw around. He generally likes being retired and able to play rather than work but is kind of bored and lonely around the margins. I am 42, self-employed at profession I mostly enjoy, have 16 year old daughter. My current financial situation is cr*p because a certain PAL left me in the lurch holding the adult end of the stick but once I clean up the mess, I'll probably be in possession of a genteel impoverished book dealer's income, a really quite reasonable debt load, a credit rating from hell and about 7500 rare books which I own outright (however these do represent a portion of my genteel impoverished income distributed over approximately the next 3 years.) If I am not misreading GP's intentions, I believe he is suggesting an economic/social/sexual alliance that would have his set income/financial base providing us with economic security while my flexible economic situation would provide us with luxuries and the time to enjoy them because I could cut back the time I spend on my business to the most profitable level. So our joint lifestyle would go something like this:
5 AM : We both workout for an hour. 6 AM : Kid stuff 7 AM : Leisurely breakfast and conversation. 9 AM : I work on my business. He plays video games. Noon : We go bargain grocery shopping together because we're both frugal about the basics. 2 PM : Hot sex. 4 PM : I work some more. He starts dinner. 6 PM : Kid stuff 8 PM : We get dressed up and go to the movies or the casino etc.
So what do you guys think? Would that be a good deal for me?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
