Gosh, you answered me before I got through with the editing.
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You said that you have "I have talked to him about it since the first month of marriage. " What I THINK you mean by that, is that you have complained to him about it. that's not the same as talking _with_ him about it. (admittedly, if he doesnt cooperate, its rather difficult, but...) It seems to me that you havent done much of the "with" part.
I'm sorry if I sounded ugly. I thought you were making assumptions about me! I don't deny that I have complained b/c it has nearly driven me crazy......and no I haven't done much with the "with" talking to him b/c how do you do it if he doesn't join into the conversation? Anyway, I didn't mean to get all up in your face. I just want to feel that somebody understands me and that some of you guys are in my corner b/c I always felt like the bad guy with his family and I suppose over the years it has made me more than defensive. I don't know what to do, but I get defensive when people start telling me to try certain things that I've done for 4 decades. If it was that easy, I wouldn't be in the condition I am tonight. I am frazzled and at my wits end. I feel like giving up and crying my eyes out. No wonder some people have EA's, it's their only way of escaping reality. And some days, my reality really stinks.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
