we were supposedly back on track ====================== as my sig. says, I am dealing with the aftermath of a second bomb. After H came back last yr we did MC and he told me (eventually) he loved me and made me believe all was well, then..KABUM! find out he was having a PA with the op from before. I know how you feel, angry and hurting for being betrayed when you truly were making (or thought) progress and trying your best-- it is a slap on the face.
What my H did and what your H said to that old classmate has only one explanation: IDIOCY. Not true love, not the product of well thought out plans, just plain idiocy to make your W believe you were working an extra day when in reality you were having a ball with another woman, when you go with your wife to a M building place and make someone else believe you are prince charming.
What were you thinking? I asked my H, "I dont' know, I dont' feel right" that was the explanation I got, I dont' think you got a better explanation from your H either.
When you go to the sessions, does the EA come up at all? I dont' think you have to bottle it up, at some point, with hopefully a C or a 3rd party present, you tell your H how it has hurt and how you need his reassurance. We talked about this with my H during C on monday, still, my H is ambivalent about acknowlodging he brought on the hurt thus he should be the one who should help me heal. I have yet to see the day in which he'd put an arm around me and said "sorry I hurt you". I feel sorry for him, pity his lack of soul, really.
I thank daily that I have a God that feels my every pain and who counts my every tear, I pray that my H finds his heart again and eventually, even if he doesnt tell me, he truly feels sorrowful for hurting me.
Hopelessness is a sign of depression, take care of yourself hon)))))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
