She said some very hurtful things in that I could not support our family then and I am not supporting them now(because I won't give her hundreds and hundreds of dollars per week). She continues to be firm that this is what must be because she cannot count on me for financial support and that I ruined our financial future. Also saying that if I planned our finances as well as I prepared for our meeting that we would probably not be in this position.
Ok, she's being angry. However, have you shown her how much money you make right now, and how it is being spent on the family, the house or whatever expenses must be covered? Maybe she just isn't aware of the true cash flow situation? A spreadsheet would be useful here.
And if she is, then her argument that you aren't supporting the family is out of line, because you are doing the best you can - right now. She just expects more.
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She says she prays for me every week at church that I will get myself together and find someone that makes me happy(how cruel)!! She is as determined as ever to get rid of me and move on.
Jeff covered this, nothing for me to add.
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Her willingness to agree to anything clearly shows to me how much she wants to be free to be with OM.
YOu don't know that to be true.
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This agreement will be about our children's well being for the next 14 years+. Her pushing me to just get it done so we can move on is just so hurtful in that I can be discarded and she doesn't seem to consider that she will not be with her children half the time every week.
Of course not, she just want's this to 'be over'. In her mind that will be the start of her 'happiness'. It won't, but she doesn't know that yet.
