I'm at work, so I have to teach these kids sometime
So. H moved in. He took over the second garage (we have a 2 car and then a single). Which was cool. I was going to suggest that anyway- and told him that when he did it. (just keep reading, you'll see).
He took out the TV in the Family room and replaced it with his. Then ran speaker wires all over the place.
Then he took out the TV I had bought for the master, took out my VCR/DVD dubber I had bought and put in his TV and speakers.
He has computer stuff in the dinning room and living room. His shoes are once again all over the place.
He has a starbucks bag for his reciepts. He empties his pockets and puts the stuff all over the dresser. ((Uh- try the trash))
He programmed the cable box to turn to CNBC everytime you turn it on. He programmed it to come on in the morning to CNBC. If he's watching TV in the family room it is so freakin loud I can hear it through my Ipod- so forget watching my shows. I get to watch about 2 hours of TV on Monday, Wed, and Fri because of my work schedule. That's how I relax while grading papers. Didn't happen last night- it was his shows.
He rearranged the second garage (his), and now I can't get to half the stuff I need to be able to get to. He gave away stuff for my classroom to Goodwill that I specifically said "don't give these, they are for my classroom".
When he took the garage for his, he said- it was his "man space" which I get. I said fine that's good, but I need my space too. Help me keep the master room clean and neat.
He has since taken over, changed, rearranged or cluttered every other room in the house. Where is my space????
I need to have organization and neatness. I can't function in clutter. My brain can't handle it. I can handle a list of 400 children, 2 jobs, things to do, and anything else people tell me. But when my house is a mess- I can't do anything that I'm supposed to. My brain can no longer organize (if that makes sense). I couldn't even sleep last night because my brain couldn't stop processing stuff.
Last night he pointed out the bag for his receipts and I nicely said that it would have to go somewhere else other than the table in the bedroom. and he said "why it's not doing anything". I said- except bothering me and he got huffy.
I have been looking into a doctorate program to become a principal. H has repeatedly told me I should do a second masters instead. His reasoning- less work, not a big pay difference, etc. I even got an info booklet in the mail. He keeps saying I'd have to do less work with the masters. But in reality what good is a second masters? Once I'm tired of being a principal, what the hell am I going to do with just a masters?
He's starting his control and the walls are closing in on me.
I have had headache for 24 hours- shoulder ache, back of the neck. A parent is a chiropracter and told me it's because I'm clentching my teeth and shoulders due to stress--- a tension headache.
In the span of 7 days he's has undone everything I have managed to rebuild in the last 3 years to maintain my happiness and reduce my stress.
And yet, I'm not supposed to complain. My requests are unreasonable to him. They always have been. I am not supposed to get upset over this. And yet, I have no desire to go home tonight. The fun loving happy me that was there 2 weeks ago- is gone.
How do I tell him?
When life gives you lemons, trade them for limes and break out the tequila!!-- Soxfan2007
7/1/05 Bomb 7/20/05 H moves out 2.5 years of Rollercoaster 10/30/07 H moves back home
