Help me thru this sitch

[Pudmuddle]

He actually admitted he did see the light on that, but we never did talk about the long term stuff, which I agree is a good way to approach that. Only if he is seriously going to marry her, then my S can be involved....Good thoughts and helpful advice cherrisher.

Update: Well, I got up this morning when H went downstairs for his breakfast and I mentioned to him how my S had been upset last night because when my S asked H where I was, he at first said "I don't know" kind of exasperated, then he said "oh she had an appt, then was going out with friends". But...all my S heard was the i don't know. So this upset him that my H didn't seem to care... Then when I got home, my S came out of his room and I greeted him but not my H. unintentionally. So when I tucked my S in bed, my S said to me 'Do you like Daddy?' I was taken aback, but said 'Yes I do, why do you ask?' 'Because you didn't say Hi to him'. I said 'Oh'. Then he talked about hew he didn't know I was going out and he was upset by this. I reassured him that I had told Daddy, but next time I would call him(my S) and let him know personally. Kind of tugged at the heartstrings on that one. :S

So then I was still downstairs with my H talking this morning and I said "see how the little things affect him?' shouldn't have said that, but I was trying to drive the point home(don't SLAP ME on this one, I know I didn't need too!!!:)) about how this affects our S, but I dropped it after that. But he said a resigned 'Yeah'. Then my H and I continued talking about daily things happening and how he and my S are going dirtbiking tomorrow and I said'Oh, I was hoping you'd go this weekend, I really wanted to watch our S ride" So he said "oh well, we will probably go this weekend too." I said good, I'd like that. This was kind of a 180 for me, because I USED to go watch and be with my H when he rode all the time. Then I began to drift away from that because I got busy with school and didn't make it a priority... So I am going to use the premise of watching our S, which I really want to do too, but also to be present with H like I used to be...does that sound good to you all?

Then after our discussions this morning, I just walked over and gave him a big hug. He kind of looked surprised after but did hug me back. I just wanted too. I miss that crazy lout. He didn't say anything but then I just rubbed his shoulder and said "Hope you have a good day today" and took my coffee and went back to my room. It felt good.