Just had another call from my solicitor to say she has received a fax from xh's solicitor and it in it states that "I" have got xh so worked up and poorly over the matter that he knows I am not indeed doing as I say and trying my best to get out of his house, go figure, he is in for a surprise I reckon in about a months time when we have moved from this pit. So it seems it is still me that is the thorn in his side, who will he blame in 4 weeks time when we have gone and he doesn't know where. He also claims that he as been more than reasonable throughout all this, so leaving us with no money for over 2 years, for going through the courts to get myself and son out for trespassing and owing him huge amounts of money, for not paying any child support and for not contacting and speaking to your son, that is reasonable, I may be wrong but I don't think so whey I say he as been a complete b*****d
Please Mandyloo, either get some take some photos of the whole entire house ot better yet rent or borrow a video cmaera and tape the condition of the house as you left it, Your ex will surly tried to take you to court yet again for damages he will or his ow/wife will cause or just lie outright.
thnks for that mamamo, will do that it is a good idea, went to the courts yesterday and we decided we had to let the other side know that we now have property and will be vacating real soon, his response "tell her there is no rush, take her time and go when she is ready", he wasn't in court as apparently he told his solicitor he was out seeking work in order to pay him, go figure
just a quickie, we are knocking on nicely with our new home, it is all so peaceful and quiet and looking good, we intend moving on the 16th november, so we will be in and sorted for christmas. On the other side of the fence xh has now put this place on the market, the for sale sign is in the garden, he is the talk of the village, he actually thinks I am going to help him sell it, that is so he doesn't have to step through the door again and face what he has done. when we go the telephone number has to change as we will be out of area, so xh won't have phone contact, won't know our address or anything, so therefore he won't be able to contact son for xmas, not that he would want to as he hasn't contacted him for 7 months. I do wonder what goes on in his head when any thoughts of his son enter, how can he just shut his head off from the boy he was so close to, it all beats me. Anyhow after our move it will be hard work indeed, so xh will have got what he wanted and that is to be left alone with his money and his new wife, wonder how long it will last then when he hasn't got us to blame for his unhappiness.
just a quickie, we are knocking on nicely with our new home, it is all so peaceful and quiet and looking good, we intend moving on the 16th november, so we will be in and sorted for christmas. On the other side of the fence xh has now put this place on the market, the for sale sign is in the garden, he is the talk of the village, he actually thinks I am going to help him sell it, that is so he doesn't have to step through the door again and face what he has done. when we go the telephone number has to change as we will be out of area, so xh won't have phone contact, won't know our address or anything, so therefore he won't be able to contact son for xmas, not that he would want to as he hasn't contacted him for 7 months. I do wonder what goes on in his head when any thoughts of his son enter, how can he just shut his head off from the boy he was so close to, it all beats me. Anyhow after our move it will be hard work indeed, so xh will have got what he wanted and that is to be left alone with his money and his new wife, wonder how long it will last then when he hasn't got us to blame for his unhappiness.
That's a good question Mandy, how long will it go? I don't have an answer for you, but I have a hunch that at the end of the day he will be all by himself.
So happy about your new home. You will feel even happier once you have moved in. I feel this will hit him once he has no way to contact you both. It is difficult to see or believe this when you are in the midst of it but I can't imagine that the finality of this won't have an effect on him.
Enjoy your move and the upcoming holidays. You can begin to make a new start with new traditions for you both.
braveheart and mickey, thank you so much for your replies, we are really looking forward to our move and our first christmas in our new home which I have to say is very modern not a bit like this dingy old fashioned place he had us live in, anyway must get on things to do and places to be.
i must thank you for the help you gave me, court went well in the fact that I was calm. We are back to sq one as far as the settlement, but I am no where back to sq one emotionally, I feel strong and ready to fight in my corner. H was just as you predicticted, head held low, wore a suit but his face said it all, he didn't make eye contact. Amazingly in the run up to court he rang the eldest son everyday, he has rung twice since. He is asking son questions, ie enquiring about his well being, college and what we are doing for Christmas. I hope this isn't for the courts benifit, he hasn't mentioned me or youngest son.
I'm so pleased you have found a new home, this should give offer you a pieceful Christmas. Enjoy fitting it out and making it special.
Mandyloo, I wish you all the best with your new home and new start. As I said before, I think at the end of the day, he will be the one who stands alone.
