Thanks for the advice. It's spot on. It's going to be the hardest thing I've ever done because I feel crushed. However, the past two days I've really worked to be positive. I've been supportive and excited about her job search and about a class she wants to take. I'm helping to find a babysitter to watch the kids while she works and goes to this class.
We have had a couple of good talks about everything other than us (e.g., kids, a trip to Disneyworld coming up, etc). It's killing me not to ask her about the R, but I haven't and will continue to give her space. We were even laughing together last night. God, I love the sound of her laughter.
This morning I got another hug when I left. She is still calling me sweetie, honey and such but isn't saying I love you like she used to or kissing me (she slipped yesterday with an "I love you", but I think it was habbit). I'm acting the same way. Positive, but not saying I love you either. The hugs are freaking me out. Very confusing.
I think I thought her love was unconditional and acted that way. What a mistake. Now I am beginning to realize that no love is unconditional.
TR is right, never trying would be worse (big TR fan btw). Thanks to each of you for the support and honest advice.
