As you know, sex was a huge issue with H and I proir to his A. I had the mentality that it was a nice-to-have in a marriage, not a must-have. Of course, I had no idea that this way of thinking was not exactly healthy.
Anyway, as H and I started working on our M, it became more and more clear that sex was very important to H... more than I could have guessed. So I tried hard to change my mindset about it. And it took time, but I am getting there.
My point is, the more free you allow yourself to be, them more easy it will come to you. This might mean faking it"... well not faking IT, but faking feeling like you want to have sex. Then your H will get into it and it might start snowballing from there... in a good way.
I'm sure I'm not telling you anything you dno't already know... it's just been my experience.
I also think that it's great that you and your H are speaking freely about it. In time, this may be what frees you up to your own sexuality.
From what I've read of your sitch and what you've posted to me, it sounds like you and yoru H are making some good, slow, steady progress.
And by the way, I totally get feeling less pressure when he's otu of town. Boy, do I knwo how you feel.
Anyway, just checking in on you.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
