Hey Sage, thanks for the thorough response. I was just curious as to the status of your R with regard to how it had been in the past. For me, I don't really remember when my R was "satisfying." Maybe it's because during the time I didn't see it for what it was, or maybe it's because it really hasn't been for so very many years. Kind of sad really.
It's interesting how much we have in common. Two things stand out for me that you said: - Belief that your H would be faithful (or the lack thereof). - That you are much more of a worrier than H. and spend a lot more time and energy on stuff than was necessary.
(Are you a Libra???)
In any case, I very much understand where you are coming from with regards to a fear of an A and being more of the "responsible" one. I've learned to let go quite a bit, be less anal, and just chill. Overall, it makes it easier for my W to be around me...especially when she isn't chillin'...
