As hard as it may be, you have to quit moping around. I read what you wrote and it didn't sound attractive at all. The hardest thing in the world is to take the time, right now, to rediscover yourself. If you looked seriously at the marriage, you might see things that had slipped by the wayside. Maybe it was dull and you both gave up doing the things you love. You stopped speaking her love language. Take a look at these things. And take a look at yourself. Your wife telling you she isn't romantically in love with you has crushed you, almost made you feel worthless, and took away the meaning of your life. It can't be solely about your spouse. You have a life of your own and you should be capable of being happy even without her. I know...easier said than done. But you can start. Start by wiping that frown off your face and trying to be happy. Be natural around her. Don't act like your dog just died. Act as if everything is rosy between you (with the exception of trying to get physically affectionate). Be interested in her. Explore what she really wants from her future. Encourage her to work to become financially independent. Prop up her self-esteem with compliments. If you feel she is capable of much more, then tell her so, without pushing her towards anything. Take a moment to consider where she's coming from. She wants more...and you can either be a roadblock, or supportive of it. I'd suggest being the latter.
Last edited by Just_Me; 11/07/0710:20 PM.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
