BTW, Dom, just wanted to say thanks for all the input...sometimes I think I let things slide too much, and that may be part of the problem...
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Sounds like he's really in only "issues" mode, and doing quite well at it. (congrats to him!)
Yes. It was a conscious decision on his part to do so. I know it terrified him at the time. He wanted to know he kept leaving a perfectly good R.
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Maybe this is kind of a personal misunderstanding with him. (Maybe you actually contributed to it....) Maybe he thinks that he cant "come back", until he is "all better".
Hm. Interesting....
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That you like who he is RIGHT NOW.... enough to stick with him.
I don't think I've told him that...at least, not that way.
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I think that he is capable of continuing to have a good relationship with you in the way that you have been having these last few months... and continually getting better as time goes on.
I think so, too. I've tried to tell him the PTSD and stuff along those lines don't bother me. Once he commented that he was amazed at how patient I was...after he woke me up at 2am and insisted we all three go from his apartment to mine, because it was the only way he knew to shake the paranoia...and I didn't get mad. Guess my laid-back personality is a good thing, in this context.
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But... IF he knows what he wants (To be with his child, and also to keep "seeing" you)...and if the issues that he is dealing with, wont forseeably change him wanting those things... It's ok for him to make some kind of middle level commitment to you both... even though he isnt "all better" yet.
I wonder if I've given him an "all-or-nothing" impression, inadvertently?
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and you ARENT ready for that commitment from yourself
It does scare me. But, lately, I had been experimenting with opening up more to him...and I did like it...
There's a lot here for me to discuss with him. No rush, though.
