When you say no to champagne....

[sage]

OK one clarification before all you DB'ers jump all over me !

"put my foot down" was pre-DB and IS a controlling statement and IS likely to lead to secrecy and lies and IS anti-DBing. I honestly don't know what I'd do today if faced with the same situation.

If ow isn't going, why not make that clear. If ow is, well, we've gotta cross that bridge sometime, no?

can't control the sitch so stop thinking about it.
Sage