Did you address what were the problems that separated you in the first place? What were the effects of counseling?
We addressed them in counseling. In hindsight the counseling destroyed our marriage. She allowed us to play the blame game and validated our anger towards the other. We kept talking about our problems instead of finding solutions. I am now seeing a Christian counselor who I believe will fight for the marriage, but he hasn't gotten on board yet.
Originally Posted By: hurtandlost
You said you moved and he said it was too late, he did not love you anymore, so how come he was OK with you moving? Was he accepting it by revenge or something?
I think that he is angry and emotionally exhausted. All the feelings he has expressed to me are the same feelings I expressed to him when I moved out but with time I realized my contribution to the problems and that divorce is not something to take lightly because it doesn't solve anything. Your problems will follow you. I just hope that he realizes this soon.
Originally Posted By: hurtandlost
It seem you have been working hard on DB. But from what I read I think that you have to work on communication. The people here recommended 3 great books that helped me a lot and I think they could be helpful to you: Not Just Friends, Break Free From the Affair and The 5 love languages.
Right now he treats me as if I am invisible and any attempt to communicate brings us right back to him wanting a divorce. He seems blinded by this OW.
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