I think she said "overly detached," and didn't feel it was a good way to be. Maybe the extreme that loving someone that can slide into enmeshment, detached slides into denial or simply apathy...
Either way, sounds like what could possibly be H's reactions. But I am in no position to diagnose him (he asked me to Sunday!). I just suggested that he may need some reflection more than he realizes, and left it at that. He scoffs at the idea of therapy...but he is going on Tues with me and the kids, for whatever that is worth.
