There is always hope, she can't believe you just yet, it is all too fresh. She has only the past years to look at, the bad history. IT will take time and true 180s from you for her to begin to believe you have changed, 7yrs is a long time, so of course she'll be wary of your new changes. Keep them up. You know that pleading and begging aren't the way. Don't call her nor hound her constantly. Do tell her when you get a chance that you DO agree that she needs time to herself, it will make a difference in her eyes, she won't feel accosted anymore.
No more R talk, unless she agrees to go to a marriage councelor, have you suggested that? I'm very glad you are doing C on your own, that is excellent.
It is very hard, the first months, when it all seems hopeless. Your w won't listen to reason any time soon, so you have to be very very patient and give her lots of time. Don't let your kids see you upset, it is a big adjustment to them, make sure you try to spend time w them and constantly tell them you love them, specially the oldest one who most likely can guess what's going on.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
