It seems that since surgery your W has been more determined to shake things up. IMO, stay your ground, but if she is so blasted determined to split then help her pack her bags. Ask her which one she would like help with first. It's a big hand to play, but do you think she would do?

I'd be happy for your company in Hopefulness. I don't consider that a name for my M necessarily, but my life that I continue to strive for.

Live your life while you are still living.
Riding the trail less traveled.