You need to forward those emails to him for two reasons. Firstly so he can see what a manipulative woman she is and secondly so he can see WHY you snooped.
He is right in that you DID revert to your previous ways and you didn't trust him. Right at the beginning you said you couldn't believe he could go cold turkey. I told you my H did. Perhaps he didn't but because I didn't snoop I didn't know and I saved myself a lot of heartache. you are sending yourself right back to square one. YOU are doing that. YOU are immediately withdrawing the money. YOU are not giving him a chance.
I'm sorry that you are hurting Luv but YOU are bringing this on yourself.
Forward those emails and stop this pity party NOW. You are your own worse enemy and I am hitting you with a big 2x4.
You do not act in the way that shows you want to trust him or want a reconciliation. As an observer you seem to be feeding off the drama.
I want this to work for you but YOU keep FCUCKING it up.
For goodness sake woman - use your brain. I am not often this outspoken and it is not my natural way to be this confrontational but I am getting so frustrated because your actions just keep making it worse. Rather than waiting to see whether you could trust him with the money you immediately withdrew it. If I was him and was tactfully trying to get rid of this women, and had no knowledge of the emails that she had sent you I would be as equally as pissed as him. He is right in saying that you have gone back to your old ways. He has laid traps for you before and each and every time you walk into them. It's OK to make mistakes if you learn by them - but you just don't. I am beginning to think you do not want this M to work and you are looking for a way out.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
