When you say no to champagne....

[erinr]

Sage,
I know I've mentioned before that we're in a new construction home.
Well recently, they just finished selling out the neighborhood. My H says, that's good. It'll be a lot easier to sell the house now and we'll get more money for it.
Internally, I FREAKED. I thought "I thought we were through that part of this nightmare!"
The look on my face must have changed because H says "what's wrong' and I reply that i thought we had decided not to sell the house.
He reminds me that he deals with mortgages everyday and that's just how he thinks.
To him, a house is an investment. You get out when you can make the best return.
I think of it as a home and a place of security.
When we sold our townhouse, he never looked back. I wandered through each room to etch it in my memory and remembered good times that we had in each of them.
It's just my way. And it seems like it's yours too.
That's ok, we just have to remember that they are not us. They don't have our emotions or our baggage.

And as a side note, your parents should have known better. They had no right to drag you into it when there was no need.
On the same note, I lived with a mother who totally overlooked my dad's infidelity, not coming home at night, etc. and expected all of us to do the same.
I guess maybe that's why I have such a difficult time confronting my H on issues I don't like.

God I hope I don't screw up my kids!!!