One comment about what you wrote: You are being a pushover. So, she calls you even when she wants something for herself? Like pick up a prescription, call for a Drs appt? Come by and discipline the kids? I'm sorry, but these aren't activities of divorced people. In my opinion, there aren't healthy boundaries here. She knows how you feel about her and uses it when it makes life easier for her. When she is with the kids, it is her time for discipline. Don't you have child support and such figured out? You must, since you are divorced. Don't be so quick to open your wallet every time she calls. She has enough money to go out of town and for hotels. Child support should be enough to cover your portion of the responsibility for every day things. If there is medical, major dental, and such, that's a different matter. If you don't pay C.S., which is hard to believe, then I guess you should work out an amount...not be the wellspring from which money flows.
As for the pros and cons of picking you....you should forget this list. You already had those things going for you before and she divorced you. To consider you again will take more.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
