I too never thought that my marriage would have problems until a month ago. Also, I have not cried as an adult, however, the emotional pain of my W telling me she does not love me has caused me to break down and cry like a big baby. Likewise, my work is affected by this as it is hard to concentrate.
As many will say, you need to concentrate on yourself and your kids. Talking about your relationship will most likely only push your wife away further. Try to improve yourself for yourself. For me, I never really liked how flabby I was getting and have started working out with vigor and feel much better about myself after losing over 12 pounds. Also, I have started taking golf lessons and will be taking up archery soon.
Dont beat yourself up that it is your fault. You sound like a good father and husband like myself. This is something that your wife needs to figure out for herself. Only she can find true happiness and a target in her life. It may be that she is going through a mid life crisis and is regretting choices she made with her life.
You should probably find a counselor that specializes in Solution Oriented Brief Therapy.
Books I have bought:
- Divorce Busting - Divorce Remedy - The Walk-Out Woman: When Your Heart is Empty and Your Dreams Are Lost - The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (Men's Edition) - For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women - We Can Work It Out: How to Solve Conflicts, Save Your Marriage - Make Up, Don't Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples - Relationship Rescue (by Dr Phil)
I have nothing but hope that you and I will have our wives come back to us. With the Thanksgiving and Christmas coming up, this is a really bad time of the year to be going through such a problem. Keep your chin up and you confidence high.
