As far as H being too far gone, no one knows. We cannot even guess what God's desires are for you. I will say He wanted your M to be joyous but He can't force your H to come back home. He can make it uncomfortable and have little pleasure for your H but He won't force your H to go back home. I cannot even guess God's timetable and I personally don't want to force God to send my W back home before she is ready. My W is too messed up to come back home right now.
You are so right about this. I wouldnt want my H back in the state he is in right now either, but I just pray God will work on him.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10